Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt

Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt

WebMD has an article today with the following headline:

“Many Straight Men Have Gay Sex.”

And in case you don’t get it, here’s the lede: “Nearly one in 10 men who say they’re straight have sex only with other men, a New York City survey finds.”

Yeah, I hate to break it to you guys, but if you’re having sex with other men, then you’re gay. This also begins to explode the myth that homosexuality is in-born and not a behavior you pick up. There may be a biological pre-disposition, but it’s not destiny.

More than anything else though, it just goes to show how confused and chaotic our society’s approach to sex has become. In reality it’s fairly simple: a bond between a husband and wife for the purposes of procreation and sacramental unification, a bond of love that results in total-self-giving between the spouses and allows us to cooperate with God in the act of creating new life ex nihilo.

Not any more though. Sex is a million different things, 99 percent of which are unfulfilling and empty, providing a momentary thrill followed by a crushing emptiness. But that’s okay, they all say, because whatever two consenting adults decide to do is de facto moral and right. Yeah, right.

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  • That you claim “gay” is a “left-wing political term that implies the entire gay activist ideology” etc. does not make it so. The reality is that “gay” is commonly understood to mean men and/or women who engage in same-sex sexual activity.

    It is not “unfair” of me to use the word in that way. It is simply using the word as it is commonly understood.

    I’m tired of people demanding everyone use their special terms and their special definitions. Sorry, but the minority group is called “black”, not African American, since in fact white folks from South Africa are African and black folks who live in the Caribbean are not American. Yet you hear people claim that the former are not African American and the latter are.

    Just as silly. If you don’t like the term, then use it the way you will. Just stop demanding everyone else engage in your groupthink.

  • Charles:

    I can understand your point. Unfortunately, some of us don’t spend enough time immersed in the intricacies of popular culture, to where they always “get the latest memo.” To explain…. I remember my Grandpa referring to blacks as “colored.” He would not have considered this a perjorative term, and neither would have the founders of the NAACP, who might have been his contemporaries. But somewhere along the way, “colored” became “black,” which became “Afro-American,” which became “African-American.” If you are caught using the previous term, a member of the receiving party is duly authorized to label you as having used an “offensive” term.

    Terminology can vary by region. In the Midwestern USA, for example, it is generally acceptable to refer to women as “gals.” It is less acceptable on the East Coast, as I have learned the hard way.

    So, you think I always “get the memo”? You think I care???

  • “Prayers for all who struggle.”

    Indeed. I don’t think some people lack compassion for those who struggle with SSA, so much as they don’t go through live defining everyone they meet in terms of that person’s sexual proclivities. I mean, yes, our sexuality is a big part of who we are; it simply doesn’t require us to wear it on our sleeves. Consequently, some don’t pre-occupy themselves with how people label themselves.

    Somewhere in academia are people who engage in “gender studies,” and who have defined more than two. Who in the world has time for all that? I’d rather work for a living.

  • Abigail, why do you think they started GSAs (Gay-Straight-Alliance) clubs in high schools?  Did you know they want to extend them down into middle schools?  Chris Gabrielli and Deval Patrick were all for this.  “The Misfits”, a book about 4 7th graders, including one who wants to come out, is mandatory reading for 7th grade in Melrose.