Waiting to exhale after abortion

Waiting to exhale after abortion

Know someone who’s had an abortion? Want to reach out to them in a “non-judgmental” (i.e. “abortion is the greatest gift to women ever!”) way? Send them an Exhale e-card! That’s right, you can select from a variety of cards—“in English and Spanish!”—to tell the woman who just aborted her child that what she just did is peachy-keen.

There’s the “Spirituality” e-card with the obligatory photo of a mountain lake and (what I guess is supposed to be) a spiritual message for her: “Healing is possible. May you find peace after your abortion.” Or the “Religious” e-card that brings you God’s judgment-free, “I’m OK, you’re OK” message: “The promise of God is to be with us through all of life’s transitions. God will never leave you or forsake you. May you find comfort in God’s constant love. Know that my prayers are with you at this time.”

What’s especially pernicious about such sentiment is that the message, on the surface, is not wrong. God doesn’t leave us or forsake us. What it fails to say is that through our action we can turn our backs on Him. If there’s no such thing as a law we can break or the possibility of a just judgment, then the mercy they invoke is meaningless.

If abortion is not even just a morally-neutral medical procedure, like a tonsillectomy, but is in fact a positive good, as so many pro-abortionists claim, then why should any woman feel sadness, despair, or anything other than liberated and freed from the chains of “forced fertility” by the power of the Supreme Court and Planned Parenthood?

Meanwhile, we can read from Exhale’s statement of who they are:

Exhale was created by and for women who have abortions.  The founders of Exhale — Aspen Baker, Susan Criscione, Carolina De Robertis, Anna Goldstein and Laura Perez — gathered together for the first time, on the floor of a Berkeley apartment, in June 2000. These five women came together because they, or someone they knew, had personally experienced the lack of non-judgmental services available for women and their significant others after an abortion.

Unlike all those judgmental services like Project Rachel, Hope After Abortion, Ramah, Rachel’s Vineyard and the rest that actually understand why women who’ve had abortions are feeling guilt and depression and regret and a million of other emotions that add up to a baggage train of self-loathing. The sad irony is that the “non-judgmental” after-abortion counseling can do nothing for the woman but paper over her pain with happy talk and a mask of false contentment.

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Domenico Bettinelli