Dr. Melissa Clouthier, who’s not approaching the topic from a particularly conservative Christian point of view, says the modern Western man needs to “man up”, which is not exactly a novel sentiment, but is nonetheless accurate.
She’s not bashing men in general, just those who have become feminized by the culture. And she has some strong words for women who prefer their men so sissified. Clouthier also looks at the tendency to push women into the workforce as a factor in circumventing the male need to provide and protect, even as she says she’s not saying all women should be stay-at-home housewives.
But it seems like an unintended consequence has been resentment. Women have excelled in the workplace. They can take care of themselves. They do leave their babies to work. Meanwhile, some men (not all, of course) have gone the other way. They no longer work as hard because they just don’t have to. On the one hand, they don’t have the financial pressure of their father’s generation, but they also don’t have the self-respect, work-ethic and noble purpose of their father’s generation either.
The culture takes every opportunity to demean manhood and to make women look smarter and wiser.
Women are suffering grave consequences however. They are seen more and more as objects rather than persons to be respected and loved.
I really believe women have reaped what they have sown and they will have to fix it at a great cost to the license they have taken with their lives.
What shocks me every time I read posts like that one, and the comments that invariably follow, is how children are no part of most of the guy commenters’ world views. Not having them, not participating in souls for God’s glory, not security for old age, not making sure they are well taken care of by someone (either the wife or themselves). Societally speaking there is no reason to get married if children aren’t involved. Why should society care who lives with who or does what. Divorce courts are expensive to society. Sacramental Catholic marriages are not on these people’s radar.