The reason I put personal prayer requests up here is not because I want to expose our personal life to the whole world, but because I know that there are many of you who do care—many of you are family and friends—and who do offer your prayers sincerely and for that I am grateful more than you can know.
Melanie had a miscarriage today. She’s in the hospital still, but should be coming home later today. I just brought Isabella home to feed her and change her (we were in the emergency room so long we ran out of diapers), and now I’m going back in.
Please pray for all of us and for our families, but especially for Melanie. I know there are others of you who have gone through the same thing and appreciate your understanding. Thank you in advance.
Update: Thank you all for your prayers. They sent Melanie home without having to do a D&C, which is good because as routine as it might be, it’s an operation requiring general anesthesia and thus is always some kind of risk. We do have orders to report back to the emergency room if she starts bleeding again. We had a real good scare while in the waiting room when we first got to the hospital that involved rushing her into a room while I trailed behind with Isabella. I won’t go into details, but if Melanie chooses to talk about it, she’ll probably do so on her blog.
Thank God my mom and my sister Francesca happened to be in town this weekend. I would normally have turned to my other sister, Evelyn, for help but she had her own emergency with two of her four kids and her husband all falling drastically ill with a bad stomach bug overnight. (One had been sick a few days and the others must have picked it up from him; my sister said my poor 7-year-old niece was so scared that she was going to get it next that she was crying and shaking.)
In any case God provides and our little “Francis/Frances” is now in heaven interceding for us. (Melanie confided in me that as she woke from a cramp last night she felt the urge to ask the Lord to baptize the baby in her womb if He willed it.) That’s about all there is to say at this point, I guess. Thanks again to everyone.
You and Melanie and the family are lifted to the heavens Domenico. My wife went through five of those before we had any children. Now we have four wonderful kids, and God has been good. They are all adults now, and the life journey with them was very special. We pray…
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 02:26 PM
I’m so sorry for both of you. May God grant you peace.
Praying. I have no idea what to say—but I couldn’t say nothing. I’ve never met you but I know there’s somebody real on the other side of the computer. I’m sorry.
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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 04:40 PM
If it’s helpful, please let those of us with experience know that Melanie would like to hear stories.
The hardest part for me was hearing our four year old daughter pray for the baby as we were heading for the hospital… we had just started telling people, including our (then) two kids.
You are in God’s hands, and your baby is with Mary.
We’ll be praying for you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:01 PM
I am so sorry for the loss of your little unborn child. Heartfelt prayers for you and Melanie.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:09 PM
My sympathies and prayers go out to you on the loss of your precious little one. May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
I’m very sorry to hear of the loss of your precious child. My prayers are with Melanie, you and Isabella.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:54 PM
My family will pray for yours, Dom, especially for Frances/is’ mom. I am so sorry for your grief.
What a beautiful request of Melanie’s, to ask that the Lord baptize your baby in the womb. I’ve never heard of anyone being inspired to do that, before. Surely, her prayer was answered.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 06:14 PM
Aaaah, this saddens me very much. God bless you guys and your sweet baby-saint.
I am so sorry for your loss. You know, right before I checked your blog I was thinking of Melanie and wondering how she was doing. May God send healing and blessings to all of you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 07:22 PM
May St Raphael the Archangel pour down the balm of God upon your family for all the ways you need healing, and lead your precious child in supernal joy to the bosom of God.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 07:29 PM
May Francis/Frances join us in our prayers for you and may this be your comfort.
My condolences, I will keep Francis/Frances, Melanie and the rest of the family in my prayers.
God bless
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:11 PM
May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious unto you. May the Lord look upon you kindly and grant you peace.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:29 PM
So sorry to hear that. I will be praying for you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:31 PM
Morning Light Ministries [http://ca.geocities.com/morninglightministry@rogers.com/] helps a lot.
Miscarriage is a special kind of grief unto itself, especially in our culture. The hardest part is feeling like we’re the only ones who acknowledge our child’s existence. I always tell people we have five kids.
Dom, I am so terribly sorry. I do know how much this hurts. Please extend my condolences to Melanie, and let her know that she and all your family will be in my prayers. God bless you all in your time of grief.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 12:26 AM
...there’ll be someone to meet in Heaven who’ll have been waiting for you
...He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away...
May our dear sweet Mother wrap your family in her sweet mantle of consolation and give you peace.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 01:39 PM
Thank you very much, everyone. All the prayers and kind thoughts are overwhelming. We are so blessed in our friends and in our family and in the loving kindness of I was going to say strangers. But no one here is a stranger, you are all our friends and we very lucky to have such friends indeed.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:02 PM
Been there, done that my friend. Only once, thanks be to God. My heart goes out to you all, and my prayers as well.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:12 PM
Blessings to Melanie. God knows and is there for you in all ways.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:22 PM
Dear God, you have your reasons - Thy will be done.
May Our Lady of Mount Carmel enclose you three in her mantle of loving protection.
You will be in my Intercession prayers during Lauds tomorrow morning.
Clive
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 04:22 PM
It’s a hard thing. You’re all in our prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 04:33 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 06:44 PM
Please accept my condolences and prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 07:26 PM
Sorry, Dom. This happened to a couple friends of mine a few weeks ago. The fellow’s around 40, married for the first time a year and a half ago, and was much looking forward to his first child, a son. She lost him at 18 weeks. But, she tells me, they got to kiss him goodbye, and they look forward now to trying again. One never knows what to say, but God bless.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 05:04 AM
Heartfelt sympathy. We lost our 5th child to miscarriage, and at age 42, I had a pretty good idea it could be our last. But Job’s words rang through my mind the whole time ‘The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the Name of the Lord” ... Through the sorrow there was/is the joy of knowing we have an intercessor for us in Heaven - and gratitude for the gift of five children - God is so generous!
I will remember both of you in prayer, that Our Lord may heal and console you.
“annieransom”
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 07:26 AM
I’ve been there more than once.
Safe in the arms of Jesus, safe on his gentle breast.
Safe in the arms of Jesus, sweetly his (her) soul shall rest.
God Bless you, Dom, and Melanie, and Isabella.
You all are in our prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 07:39 AM
I’m very sorry for your loss. My prayers join all the others here for strength and support for the three of you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 09:37 AM
Sorry Dom- my wife Joycelyn and I went through this a few months ago- our little Talitha will welcome your child- allow everyone-even the little one(s) to cry and grieve, healing will come sooner than you imagine. Everything works to the good for those who believe.
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Prayer request
The reason I put personal prayer requests up here is not because I want to expose our personal life to the whole world, but because I know that there are many of you who do care—many of you are family and friends—and who do offer your prayers sincerely and for that I am grateful more than you can know.
Melanie had a miscarriage today. She’s in the hospital still, but should be coming home later today. I just brought Isabella home to feed her and change her (we were in the emergency room so long we ran out of diapers), and now I’m going back in.
Please pray for all of us and for our families, but especially for Melanie. I know there are others of you who have gone through the same thing and appreciate your understanding. Thank you in advance.
Update: Thank you all for your prayers. They sent Melanie home without having to do a D&C, which is good because as routine as it might be, it’s an operation requiring general anesthesia and thus is always some kind of risk. We do have orders to report back to the emergency room if she starts bleeding again. We had a real good scare while in the waiting room when we first got to the hospital that involved rushing her into a room while I trailed behind with Isabella. I won’t go into details, but if Melanie chooses to talk about it, she’ll probably do so on her blog.
Thank God my mom and my sister Francesca happened to be in town this weekend. I would normally have turned to my other sister, Evelyn, for help but she had her own emergency with two of her four kids and her husband all falling drastically ill with a bad stomach bug overnight. (One had been sick a few days and the others must have picked it up from him; my sister said my poor 7-year-old niece was so scared that she was going to get it next that she was crying and shaking.)
In any case God provides and our little “Francis/Frances” is now in heaven interceding for us. (Melanie confided in me that as she woke from a cramp last night she felt the urge to ask the Lord to baptize the baby in her womb if He willed it.) That’s about all there is to say at this point, I guess. Thanks again to everyone.
COMMENTS
Dom:
Melanie and you are certainly in my prayers right now during this trauma. May God grant you all peace and strength.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 01:56 PM
My next Rosary will be for you and your family.
Posted by Pazdziernik on 02/25/07 at 01:58 PM
You and Melanie and the family are lifted to the heavens Domenico. My wife went through five of those before we had any children. Now we have four wonderful kids, and God has been good. They are all adults now, and the life journey with them was very special. We pray…
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 02:26 PM
I’m so sorry for both of you. May God grant you peace.
Posted by Carrie on 02/25/07 at 02:35 PM
Praying. I have no idea what to say—but I couldn’t say nothing. I’ve never met you but I know there’s somebody real on the other side of the computer. I’m sorry.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 03:23 PM
I am so sorry. Know of prayers for all of you.
Posted by marco frisbee on 02/25/07 at 03:25 PM
All of your family will be in my prayers during this next week of Lent. May God be with you and keep you in His loving care.————Alice
Posted by Alice Slattery on 02/25/07 at 03:57 PM
You are both in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 04:40 PM
If it’s helpful, please let those of us with experience know that Melanie would like to hear stories.
The hardest part for me was hearing our four year old daughter pray for the baby as we were heading for the hospital… we had just started telling people, including our (then) two kids.
You are in God’s hands, and your baby is with Mary.
We’ll be praying for you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:01 PM
I am so sorry for the loss of your little unborn child. Heartfelt prayers for you and Melanie.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:09 PM
My sympathies and prayers go out to you on the loss of your precious little one. May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
Posted by Barb Szyszkiewicz, sfo on 02/25/07 at 05:41 PM
I’m very sorry to hear of the loss of your precious child. My prayers are with Melanie, you and Isabella.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 05:54 PM
My family will pray for yours, Dom, especially for Frances/is’ mom. I am so sorry for your grief.
What a beautiful request of Melanie’s, to ask that the Lord baptize your baby in the womb. I’ve never heard of anyone being inspired to do that, before. Surely, her prayer was answered.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 06:14 PM
Aaaah, this saddens me very much. God bless you guys and your sweet baby-saint.
Man, I wish I could do more….
Posted by Tim on 02/25/07 at 06:58 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. You know, right before I checked your blog I was thinking of Melanie and wondering how she was doing. May God send healing and blessings to all of you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 07:22 PM
May St Raphael the Archangel pour down the balm of God upon your family for all the ways you need healing, and lead your precious child in supernal joy to the bosom of God.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 07:29 PM
May Francis/Frances join us in our prayers for you and may this be your comfort.
Much love,
Kelly
Posted by Kelly Clark on 02/25/07 at 08:10 PM
Oh, I’m so sorry. You are in my prayers.
Posted by Fr Martin Fox on 02/25/07 at 08:25 PM
My condolences, I will keep Francis/Frances, Melanie and the rest of the family in my prayers.
God bless
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:11 PM
May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious unto you. May the Lord look upon you kindly and grant you peace.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:29 PM
So sorry to hear that. I will be praying for you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/25/07 at 09:31 PM
Morning Light Ministries [http://ca.geocities.com/morninglightministry@rogers.com/] helps a lot.
Miscarriage is a special kind of grief unto itself, especially in our culture. The hardest part is feeling like we’re the only ones who acknowledge our child’s existence. I always tell people we have five kids.
Posted by JC on 02/25/07 at 10:29 PM
Dom, I am so terribly sorry. I do know how much this hurts. Please extend my condolences to Melanie, and let her know that she and all your family will be in my prayers. God bless you all in your time of grief.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 12:26 AM
That is sad news. I shall pray for you all.
Posted by Bob the Ape on 02/26/07 at 04:09 AM
...there’ll be someone to meet in Heaven who’ll have been waiting for you
...He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away...
Posted by Gerald Augustinus on 02/26/07 at 04:26 AM
We are sorry for your loss and will keep you all 4 in our prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 06:45 AM
I am so very sorry, to hear this. May our Lord give you and Melanie an abundance of His healing grace. A special, tender hug for Melanie.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 06:49 AM
Praying for you.
Posted by Meg Q on 02/26/07 at 06:51 AM
Dom and Melanie,
I’m so sorry. You both will be in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 07:52 AM
God grant you serenity in your grief. Pausing right now to pray for you and for all who have suffered miscarriage.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 07:57 AM
My wife also had a miscarriage almost 4 years ago. As common as they are, it is still a traumatizing experience. I will also pray for your family.
Posted by Dan Jasmin on 02/26/07 at 08:34 AM
I am so sorry. Will be keeping all of you in my prayers…
Posted by Ellyn von Huben on 02/26/07 at 09:25 AM
Sorry to hear about your family’s loss.
Peace
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 09:45 AM
May our loving and merciful God comfort you during this time. I’m so sorry.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 10:01 AM
Oh Dom, I’m so sorry for your and Melanie’s loss. Please know that your family is in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 11:44 AM
I am so sorry Dom. I will keep you all in my prayers.
Posted by Dennis_Mahon on 02/26/07 at 11:49 AM
You and Melanie are in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 01:03 PM
So sorry to hear it. We’ll be praying for you guys.
Posted by Daisy on 02/26/07 at 01:14 PM
May our dear sweet Mother wrap your family in her sweet mantle of consolation and give you peace.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 01:39 PM
Thank you very much, everyone. All the prayers and kind thoughts are overwhelming. We are so blessed in our friends and in our family and in the loving kindness of I was going to say strangers. But no one here is a stranger, you are all our friends and we very lucky to have such friends indeed.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:02 PM
Been there, done that my friend. Only once, thanks be to God. My heart goes out to you all, and my prayers as well.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:12 PM
Blessings to Melanie. God knows and is there for you in all ways.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 02:22 PM
Dear God, you have your reasons - Thy will be done.
May Our Lady of Mount Carmel enclose you three in her mantle of loving protection.
You will be in my Intercession prayers during Lauds tomorrow morning.
Clive
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 04:22 PM
It’s a hard thing. You’re all in our prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 04:33 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my prayers.
Posted by Domini Sumus on 02/26/07 at 04:42 PM
You are all in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 06:44 PM
Please accept my condolences and prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/26/07 at 07:26 PM
Sorry, Dom. This happened to a couple friends of mine a few weeks ago. The fellow’s around 40, married for the first time a year and a half ago, and was much looking forward to his first child, a son. She lost him at 18 weeks. But, she tells me, they got to kiss him goodbye, and they look forward now to trying again. One never knows what to say, but God bless.
Posted by William Luse on 02/27/07 at 02:29 AM
My condolences, and y’all are in my prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 05:04 AM
Heartfelt sympathy. We lost our 5th child to miscarriage, and at age 42, I had a pretty good idea it could be our last. But Job’s words rang through my mind the whole time ‘The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the Name of the Lord” ... Through the sorrow there was/is the joy of knowing we have an intercessor for us in Heaven - and gratitude for the gift of five children - God is so generous!
I will remember both of you in prayer, that Our Lord may heal and console you.
“annieransom”
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 07:26 AM
I’ve been there more than once.
Safe in the arms of Jesus, safe on his gentle breast.
Safe in the arms of Jesus, sweetly his (her) soul shall rest.
God Bless you, Dom, and Melanie, and Isabella.
You all are in our prayers.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 07:39 AM
I’m very sorry for your loss. My prayers join all the others here for strength and support for the three of you.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 02/27/07 at 09:37 AM
May God be with you and Melanie.
Posted by Lynn on 02/27/07 at 10:02 AM
Sorry Dom- my wife Joycelyn and I went through this a few months ago- our little Talitha will welcome your child- allow everyone-even the little one(s) to cry and grieve, healing will come sooner than you imagine. Everything works to the good for those who believe.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 03/1/07 at 05:01 PM
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